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riviera911477

  9 months ago
Yes, I do think you should. It is not too late to get the help you need and lets face it, you only get one mother. Someday she will be gone, I live to have no regrets - I hope you can.
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Kiaravoegeli

  9 months ago
No
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Kiaravoegeli

  9 months ago
No
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T6693858q66

  9 months ago
Yes she was only doing what she thought was best for you
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NMCB3299

  9 months ago
My mother did the same thing to me because I wanted my independence at age 19 and there was alot of friction in our house at the time. My mother did not want me to leave and I wanted to go into the military. I think some of that friction remained in the house even after we had moved out in a spiritual sense. The teenaged son in the family who bought our house actually ran away and he has not been seen since according to our old neighbor. He too had friction with his family soon after they moved in. I think part of what we left behind remained and I suppose that family failed to properly smudge the home with sage.
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Moehugzz

  9 months ago
Jade, you should forgive her. I know its hard. It doesn't mean you will forget. I went through some similar issues. Forgiving will give you peace.
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jkrasnick

  9 months ago
I would try to find a therapist now with whom you are comfortable. The first one you try may not be a good fit. You have to have a certain amount of chemistry with someone to whom you are going to tell your innermost problems. Whatever issues you had when you were 19, if you still have those issues, and to deal with your feelings of anger towards your mother, it would do you good to work with a professional. That person can help you forgive your mother. I agree with @pc1976 and @pdnr that forgiving someone is about helping yourself. If you can forgive her, you may realize that she was doing what she thought was best and she didn't have any experience with mental health. Dealing with mental health was still much more in the closet back then. Yes, she should have listened to you and been more sympathetic. But the way to get better is to work on helping yourself now. Holding on to resentment for 40 years has just eaten away at you and is probably holding you back from healing.
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pc1976

  9 months ago
I know it is hard to forgive sometimes, but please try. Forgiveness would give you some peace of mind. As we go through life we are just winging it and hoping for the best, sometimes we make the right decisions and sometimes we don't and most of us at one time or another will need forgiveness. Maybe talking to a professional about this would help. Whatever you decide I hope you find peace.
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jade1024

  9 months ago
I would really appreciate any feedback that anyone can give. I am 58 years old now.
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jade1024

  9 months ago
I would like to add that my family is catholic and the psychiatrist she took me to was I think an hassidic jewish person. He was very old and had a long beard down to his stomach. He was the first person she did not even do any research.
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